Five Things to Do JUST FOR YOURSELF
The country artist, Toby Keith sang a little ditty a few years ago which included the words;
“I wanna talk about me
Wanna talk about I
Wanna talk about number one
Oh my me my
What I think, what I like, what I know, what I want, what I see…”
Sounds selfish doesn’t it? But I think frequently we fail to recognize the important things we need to do in our life, just for us.
You can spend all your life taking care of a family, loved ones, colleagues and good friends and yet overlook the critical elements you must address to take care of yourself.
I think there are FIVE things every single person needs to make sure they consistently adress in life. These are things that are non-negotiable and actually will help you become a better person because you have made them a priority.
FIVE THINGS YOU NEED TO ADDRESS JUST FOR YOURSELF
I recently talked with a client who was so stressed out about her current work situation that she wasn’t sleeping, was losing weight and was becoming more and more withdrawn.I told her to see a physician before we began coaching.She hadn’t been to one in years and was in no shape to start looking for a new career when she could barely get through the day.Never compromise your health because you think you don’t have time, resources or because you don’t “feel that bad”. A yearly check-up literally is a life saver.
YOUR INNER MUSE, DREAMS and GOALS
Every single person has a talent or gift. You don’t have to plan to write a best seller, but if you enjoy writing, then create some time to write. Maybe you won’t be a world famous musician but that shouldn’t stop you from taking those piano lessons you always wanted. Stop telling yourself it’s a silly activity to enjoy your creative side. I have a grown friend who loves to color and another who has tossed some culinary creations in the garbage but that hasn’t stopped her from trying new ones all the time. You miss much out of life by not consistently participating in the things that make you smile.( Even if they end up in the trash)
Sadly, I frequently coach people who have put a lid on their dreams for decades.They come into coaching with more regrets about what they didn’t do than dreams about what they can.Without a dream, a destination, a goal, we live a hamster in a wheel existence. Your dream doesn’t have to be final. Dreams can change but you should take time to regularly ask yourself if you are moving in the direction of your dreams or letting your circumstances become excuses for why you are not.Do you let your dreams be controlled by others or do you regularly take time to plan the steps to get to where you want to be?
Yeah, I know. Everyone wants more money but few people consistently take inventory in looking into where their money is going. Whether you have $5.00 or $5,000, you will never have more if you don’t know how to handle it. It’s more than what you have left after you pay the bills. You need to regularly look at where your money is going. It’s easy to say, “There is nothing left after I pay everything.” but that is not a strategy. A strategy is a budget, an inventory and a plan. If you don’t know how to get there yourself,Dave Ramsey has some excellent free resources.Money doesn’t buy happiness but the peace of mind having control over your financial resources can be life changing.
People are frequently reluctant to take time for themselves. Parents, especially ones working outside of the home feel guilty taking any time away from their children. Mothers often understand the need to take a respite break and yet are critical of other women who have regularly schedule time just for themselves. You are only human. Everyone needs a break. If you have not consistently scheduled in a long walk, window shopping, lunch with a friend, a golf game or even some mindless time on Pinterest, then you need to recognize you are contributing to your own burnout by letting everyone suck up your time. You are not selfish to need a breather, you are smart for scheduling one.
Sometimes you have to be sweet to people who annoy you, but if you have permitted yourself to tolerate abuse, indifference, neglect or constant criticism from people in your life, you deserve better. Stop spending time with people who choke your every breath. Yes, you might have to work for a crummy boss (but only until you find a better job). You might have to attend a social function with some horrible relatives, but if you let them know the rules you play by, you don’t have to be the carpet. You can learn to stay away from and say “no more” to people who want to control you but only if you make this a priority in your life just for you.
Sometimes we need to do things for ourselves because we can and we should.
It’s like putting on your own oxygen mask before you attend to your child if an airplane is going down. You must learn basic survival skills for yourself in order to be even minimally effective for someone else.
When you learn to regularly take time to evaluate your health, finances,time,relationships dreams and inner muse, You become the YOU you were truly meant to be.
What other areas do you think people need to personally and regularly evaluate?
What areas have you allowed others to control for you?
Kathy is a certified career coach who helps people move from day jobs to Dream Work in new careers or as a business owner. Need to run an idea by her or talk about a career plan?Sign up for a complimentary consult today!