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If the Queen Had Balls
Why your “If” is More Important than Your “Why”
We have all heard about the importance of discovering your “why” or your purpose. As a coach, I think it is truly important to discover what you believe is your reason for pursuing the life the way you do, but I think the word that really has more cataclysmic results is, “If”.
How many times a day do you toy with the word “If” in your mind?
“If I go to the gym before 8, I can still make it to the office by 9.”
“If I get a bigger dog, I might feel safer.”
“If we don’t get pregnant this year, I will be nearly 60 before my kid graduates high school.”
“I’m going to wait and see if I can find a better deal.”
Our “ifs” are thought-provoking, information seeking, musings and considerations of what might happen
That is the reason “if” changes everything.
“If” has probability but no definitives because “if” never becomes anything unless acted upon and sometimes “if” isn’t remotely even possible
In her recent best-seller, “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone,” psychotherapist, Lori Gottlieb says, “If the queen had balls she’d be king.”
I don’t want to be crass, but Lori could not be more accurate.
